Body language

The difference between the top and the bottom photos–what do they tell you? The one on top is someone who is possibly intimidated or afraid, maybe a little unsure, and thus, withdrawing or protecting herself. Meanwhile, the bottom photo is someone who is more confident and assertive, with no uncertainty or hesitance.

I found myself mulling over these differences at work yesterday. Even in the midst of an ethical dilemma that I was on the right side of, I behaved more like the top photo when speaking to each of my managers. I kept checking my body language and posture, trying to assert myself more, make better eye contact, hold myself like someone who knew how to handle the situation and her feelings. Instead, I kept withdrawing, I kept feeling unsure, I kept nodding in agreement, and I felt small and a little scared.

Why? It was inexplicable. Not only…