Do What Gives You Joy

My personal journey of growth and self-improvement has been bumpy, to say the least. Everything I post on here is about that journey to find happiness, stability, and a healthy mind. It’s not been a linear journey, either.

I’ve concentrated my efforts lately not on doing some specific CBT worksheet or DBT skill, but instead on doing what gives me joy. Long-lasting happiness and being in complete control of all my emotions and reactions seems a little too far-fetched some days. But moments of joy–that’s attainable.

Well, first of all, what gives me joy?

  • Connecting with people, whether it’s friends, family, or even nice strangers. Warm people who light up my life. People I can laugh with, people I can trust in, people I feel comfortable with. This can be my best friend or a customer at work. I like interacting with people who make me feel that light inside.
  • Creating something of my own. File this under writing and video work. I want to do more in video that’s MY work. I love helping on other projects, but I have my own ideas. I got into video production because I wanted to tell stories. I’ve cast aside all my ideas in favor of…what? Nothing. What’s stopping me? And regular ole writing–I have two blogs that I don’t keep updated regularly. I can do that.
  • Helping others, as cliche as it sounds. Although, if it were so cliche, maybe more people would actually do it, instead of listing it? I used to volunteer a lot a few years ago. I recently got back into it with a local animal shelter. I love doing something for the greater good. I would extend this also to doing kind things for others, be it just a compliment, paying for someone’s meal, or going out of your way to do anything for them at all. Again, strangers or friends.

Okay, this a nice list! But I have to actually make it happen. That means “doing”. This blog is not about theory. It’s about practice. I try to showcase when I actually do, not just when I have some pretty platitudes or pragmatic bullshit to spew.

The doing is the hard part though. We all have trouble with the doing, I can say that pretty confidently. There may be a Thing you want to do that will give you joy, but it requires some effort. Effort is hard. Your time, your money, the mental and physical energy you exert are all valuable resources when it comes to doing. So valuable that you may not do The Thing because parting with those resources means more than any benefit you can get from The Thing.

I still struggle with the doing. Maybe something on the joy list isn’t always accessible or practical, but I’ve talked about other quick fixes for feeling a bit more energetic and productive. Anything to decrease the amount of time I feel like crap.

My goal is to do more things, more often that give me joy. If I only make one little step toward it one day, that’s fine. At least I’m working on that Thing. There are days I don’t feel like doing any steps. That’s okay, too. I am just trying to keep having more Joy Days than non-joy days. It’s only going to go up from here, I tell myself.

 

So, what gives you joy? Why can’t you do it right now? What’s a step you can take toward it right now? What’s the second step?

I’ve had enough bad times, and I’m sick of dwelling on them. I’m ready to start cashing in on more of the great moments. Let’s make some damn memories.

3 thoughts on “Do What Gives You Joy

  1. i enjoy blogging for the most part, and i enjoy that i have control over it. i had a couple blogs that didnt make me happy anymore, so i deleted them. and as hard it was to hit the delete button, i feel much better about myself and where my life is going. that i dont regret doing that. i also am glad that i went back to why i started blogging in the first place, to help me vent and just use my voice so i could be heard. and going back to that, it made me enjoy blogging again.

    i enjoy doing art, i used to just use markers but now since nov 2018, ive been working with watercolours and acrylics. i may not be able to sell my paintings or anything (ive only sold about 6), but i still enjoy painting. im going to paint whether i sell or not. i am even going to paint, when i run out of room to display my art. and when im not in the mood to paint, ill use my markers again and go from there.

    i enjoy listening to music, and it’s always fun listening to new music and even old music as well.

    plus, i love when the weather is nice outside, so i can go outside and plop myself down somewhere and enjoy the beauty that is around me.

    1. It’s so fantastic that you have hobbies that are fulfilling. It shouldn’t matter if it makes you money. It’s great that you are able to just put yourself into that and enjoy it for what it is. I wish I were artistically inclined! That’s really awesome. I’m with you on music though. Music is life!

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